When people think of domestic violence and unhealthy relationships, they most likely think of adults. Unfortunately, teen dating violence is much more common than people think.
Statistics show 1 in 3 teens (ages 12-18) in the U.S. will experience physical, sexual or emotional abuse by someone with whom they are in a relationship. Nearly half (43%) of dating college women report experiencing violent and abusive behaviors from a dating partner.
In light of these alarming facts, every year during the month of February, HOPE Family Services joins with other local and national organizations to raise awareness about dating violence and to promote healthy relationships.
Adolescents are especially vulnerable to dating violence as many are entering relationships for the first time. The effects of those unhealthy relationships tend to last much longer than the relationship itself. Teens in abusive relationships will often bring the same unhealthy patterns of violence into future relationships. Many continue those patterns without an understanding that they are unhealthy and shouldn’t be accepted.
That’s why it’s important to understand and recognize the warning signs. Being able to tell the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships can be difficult because no two relationships are the same. See a full list of warning signs here. Bringing awareness to this issue is the first step in preventing dating abuse.
So, how can you help a teenager in your life prevent dating violence?
- Spread awareness to stop dating abuse before it starts!
- Practice these three strategies with your teen regularly:
- Ask a question
- Listen up
- Stay connected
- Know how to recognize warning signs
- Become informed about resources to help
- Show your willingness to support them
- Be non-judgmental
- Encourage them to participate in activities outside of the relationship, with friends and family
- Help them develop a safety plan
While you are trying to help someone that is experiencing dating violence, remember that you cannot “rescue” them. They are ultimately the one who has to make the decision on what they want to do. Although it is difficult to witness someone you care about get hurt, it’s important to show support and help them find a way to safety and peace.